Neighbours

All this time bonding with my boyfriend has definitely educated me on the ways of guys, but honestly without my girlfriends Dec and I may as well be living on different continents, him speaking Swahili and me speaking French!

Fact: There are times when we just don’t get each other! Saying one thing can comes across as something completely different to the other person and that’s when things can go horribly haywire and before you know it your guys checked out. All his attention has been directed towards footy and you’re left feeling exhausted, drained and just a little bit crazy!

I know what it’s like to have a committed guy, who’s engaged and does his part to make sure we’re both having an incredible time together, I know what it's like because I had one. But what happens when that same ‘committed’ guy suddenly turns his attention to football for long periods of time and disconnects from your relationship? What's happened is you aren’t speaking the same language and the frustration has caused him to switch off and become distant. That’s what boys do! And us girls try to fix it, but not always successfully!

This week in Ramsay Street started out great, Dad was recovering well in hospital and it was the Dingoes’ grand final! I was listening to the game by Dad’s bedside and enjoying having my family back in one piece when Dec got knocked down on the footy field. So I had to go to the game to see if he was alright. In hindsight I would’ve been better off staying away because Dec was so fired up! He was playing badly in front of an AFL scout and I just made the situation worse by trying to fix it. Instead I pushed him away!

Dec did come good in the second half of the game and the Dingoes’ won the grand final, which was really cool. Also, both Dec and Ringo were picked up by an AFL scout which could fulfil their dreams of an AFL future. I’m not that happy about it though. Selfishly I don’t really want to be an AFL girlfriend with my boyfriend’s head constantly in footy-mode and our relationship sitting on the bench!

So I was frustrated because Dec and I weren't talking, Donna was frustrated because her and Ringo weren’t getting anywhere, and Rachel was frustrated because we were frustrated! So it was time for some intervention, a good old girl's night in!

So Rachel, Donna and I had a night to ourselves without any interference from the boys, and that included no talk about boys! But we needed to talk about boys! Dec and my relationship could wait, but emergency work had to be done if Ringo and Donna had any chance of getting things back on track, they were so off course it was ridiculous! When Donna told us about Ringo bad-mouthing her Dad we helped her see what he was actually saying, that she didn’t deserve to be treated the way her father had treated her! The problem was Donna didn’t translate what Ringo said from 'Boy' into English! When the penny dropped she ran straight out the door, fully masked into the rain, to find Ringo and set things straight. And the girl got her man!  Finally it was officially on - but not for long. Within half an hour of them getting together she had bailed on him while they were making out in the bedroom. Once again she failed to translate Boy into English!

I have to admit watching the two of them try and get it together has been somewhat frustrating. I think Donna might need quite a few girly nights to work her way through this relationship. Having said that, she did make out with Ringo the next day at Lassiter’s Hotel, seducing him with her ‘special’ cheerleading moment! That was after we helped her see he was actually speaking her language this time and ‘did’ want it to be ‘special’ between them!

Another couple who have been back and forth trying to decipher each other's language have just got engaged - Dan and Libby!  It's awesome news.  Apparently it was Steph's handy work which helped them work out what each other wanted! 

See, communication is the key and girlfriends are what we need!  Now I just need some help to work Declan out!

Lots of love

Didge x